Tantra Bloggers and Writers

tantra bloggers and writersTantra Bloggers and Writers, and Tantra Readers, of course!!!!

To any of you who are bloggers out there: do you find it interesting, that when you blog to one audience, you tend to write in a certain way, and when you blog to a difference audience, you write in another? For example, when I wrote in SexBlissLifeCoach.blogspot.com (or HERE MyLoverMyBestFriend.wordpress.com), I write sexy articles, juicy pieces on love, intimacy, romance, tantric awakening, etc., and when I write to my new blog site TrueTantra.net, I actually write about the core of what Tantra truly is, and when I write to my blog IntuitiveSoulHealings.com, I write solely about healing, yoga, intuitive experiences and emotional healing. And, while I’m on a roll, when I write to my blog for women, it is just that, a blog for issues related to women! (HealingSacredWoman.com)

So when I return here, even just looking at the blog, and being here, the energy is filled with excitement. It raises an energy that feels fulfilling, eluminating, inspiring and empowering. I may just want to make some changes after all! (Delete moon fruit’s site, and consider renaming TrueTantra.net back to AsttarteDeva.com)…just a thought. However, when I’m here, I want to share about some sexy happenings, or potential sexual happenings.

So what are some sexy things you have done lately? Or, what are some sexy things you’re thinking of doing, want to do, or would love to make different in your life? A new lover perhaps, a new romantic vacation, to take your girlfriend/wife/boyfriend/partner on an anniversary dinner or get-away? Or perhaps rent a cabin and join some friends on a double or triple date? I’d love to hear some things you’re up to, and please don’t be shy!!!!


(PS. check out my new blogs listed above)

Take Time to Love Him

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Do you make the time to be alone with your beloved husband or boyfriend (or girlfriend if you a lesbian)? Do you create quality time despite the fact that you have a job, or a family, or a career, are self employed, need to go grocery shopping, do the laundry, meet with your girlfriends and relax just to be with you, or any other number of reasons you would keep distant from the most important person in your life? And speaking of reasons, we ALL have plenty of reasons for being alone, for being single, for creating separation or distance from our loved ones, but we ALSO have many reasons for choosing to create connection with them as well.

Perhaps you’re angry at your partner, or ex, and you are now choosing to hold onto resentment because you don’t trust anymore, or you are wallowing in self pity, perhaps you’re blaming them for your problems, or all your friends cheer you on that he/she was the asshole! Whoohoo, let’s bash down our most precious partner to make us feel justified that we were right. That feels OH so good! BullS!!!! Do you really want to be putting down the one person you are more connected to in your heart? Does it truly make you feel good about yourself that you’re pulling away because you’re angry? And perhaps, just perhaps they aren’t even angry at you at all. It’s you who has the anger or resentment in your heart. And that truly does just eat away at you. You can be filled by the energy of anger for months and even years, and it surely will give you lots of energy to continue to put down any potential of connection or love, but the rewards are SO much greater when you can shift and transcend this energy into forgiveness and then love, and allow this same person you have deeply cared about all this time back into your heart!

When you take the time to love the person you LOVE, what will you receive:

  • A knowing of forgiveness and an opening in your heart
  • The potential of falling in love all over again!
  • Peace of mind, joy and serenity
  • bliss
  • the return of GREAT sex
  • more energy to do the things you WANT and need to do
  • understanding of each other on a greater level
  • a best friend
  • knowing yourself at a greater level
  • better sleep
  • a calm mind
  • a sense of ease and satisfaction
  • LOVE!!!!

When you take the time to love the most important person in your life, you’re not only giving him/her the greatest gift, you’re also giving it to yourself as it returns back to you MULTIPLIED!!!!

I honor and celebrate all who can fall in love over and over and over again, or those who want to experience this to know IT IS possible in any moment. It’s your choice! Always, always choose love! It’s the greatest gift of all! And right now in our world, love is the greatest treasure to behold and the gift that will allow us to continue to shine! WE are our future, and our future is NOW! Choose love, and love will choose you!

Blessings and love and Namaste~


MyLoverMyBestFriend.com and Vote on Relationship and Couples blog name!

Blessings beautiful beings,

I am taking votes for this blog. Although I have already added the name to AsttarteonSex.com, I have owned that name for several years and it was actually the name I plan on using for a radio show. Whats next for this blog is links to my new ebooks (once they’re complete), a link to a live radio show (coming soon), videos and my own podcasts. The focus of this blog IS for relationship and intimacy Coaching and THEN once those things are restored and healed, having GREAT sex! Any feedback is appreciated!

So these are the names best narrowed down:




or AsttarteonSex.com



Pulling Passion Out of a Hat

Where does passion come from? What do you do with it when it overwhelms you? But more importantly, how to you access it when it is in hiding?

When passion disappears, what do you focus on? How do you regain the joy and pleasure in your relationships if no passion exists between you and your Beloved?

Sometimes, and most often, passion sizzles after it has peaked to its high with an affair, and especially with those people we love oh so much and see sometimes more often than our spirits perhaps want to. It is our hearts that want them around, but in the hanging around, the energy sizzles, the spark, as they say, runs out, and the drive to be together can disappear overnight!

When you’re in love with your husband or wife, and you wish to remain in love with them, it is almost crucial to make a date night (or day) with them to keep the sizzle high! That sizzle is what drives us, it moves us and excites our juices to be with them, and to be with them again and again! We can forget the importance of someone in our lives when you see them often, and you can definitely forget what it feels like to be touched, caressed and fondled by their flesh!

Every single part of our bodies have desire in them and the ability for passion and pleasure. The simplest touch on a face, or pressure on an arm can arouse desires forgotten and misplaced for mundane habits in the home or workplace.  When you want to turn that heat on, try teasing your lover! Remind them of your sensual power. Remind them that you truly can turn them on! AND, remind yourself you can turn yourself on too! Sometimes, in order to turn on someone else, you must turn on yourself first! And sometimes to turn on yourself, you must remember who you are, and what matters to you, and that your luscious body deserves to be touched, pampered and caressed with love! Your lover is waiting for you and your heart is always ready to be filled; even if you forget that it is there! It surely is!

Asttarte Deva:

This amazing woman speaks to my heart now, as I contemplate a piece of writing gifted from the divine, to offer my prayers of love to you!

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Understanding, this is what many of us wish to gain. We wish to understand life and all that it has to offer, we want to understand love, and we learn to understand why bad things happen in the world.

Living without understanding leaves many people afraid because the unknown is one of the most terrifying concepts of this world. Not knowing what’s next, not knowing which step to take, and not being sure of your own emotions.

We fear what we do not understand. We search for answers outside of us. “Why did this happen?” “Who/what is responsible?” As we search for these answers we lose sight of what really matters. Love, the God and Goddess, our families, and ultimately we lose ourselves.

Many times in life we forget that understanding is within us all, we simply have to find the will to access it. Since we don’t understand ourselves…

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Celebrating Spiritual Relationship


Today I want to talk about Spiritual Relationship and what that means. I’m sure many of you have an understanding on some level of what spiritual relationship means to you, and perhaps you already have a beautiful relationship where you surrender to the others feelings and moments as they show up, but there are fewer people who are in long term relationships and in love than there are those who feel separate, distant and alone.


When you were in love, and a relationship was new, do you remember how you used to put your beloveds feelings first, and you really listened and made sure you did what you knew would make them happy? Perhaps you practiced a little more self love and perhaps even, gave a little more of yourself, were more patient and understanding and accepted your new lovers pros and cons a little better.  Perhaps all the upsets and triggers didn’t exist to you then, and you were just in the state of bliss and the euphoria of “new love”!

Well, what happens after this new glow is gone? What do you do to regain the feeling of love, and bring back the state of bliss and joy when your heart sang in the beginning of a new relationship? Do you still give your lover gifts for no reason? Do you still dress in the way you know he or she would absolutely adore? Do you still wear clothes that you know would turn him or her on? Do you still surprise your lover just because you want to see him/her? Do you send your love notes or gifts in the mail that would drop their jaw? Do you make date nights/days where NO ONE can disturb you, and you have time to be alone to do what makes the BOTH of you happy?

When a relationship is old, perhaps distant or sour, try re-creating a new meaning for the relationship and change the way you see it; change the boundaries and let go of what you were holding on to. Change the expectations and surrender your heart to your Beloved. Notice your anger, your disappointment or your sadness, and do YOUR inner work to change yourself; rather than trying to change the situation, or worse, the other person.

Do you have a spiritual practice you can do to help you in your heart, to clear your energetic space, or your inner world? Try on a new meditation practice, a simple breathing meditation or a simple mantra practice; something you can do on a DAILY basis that will help you to come back to your heart EVERY time you notice your heart is getting hard or filling with anything other than love! You might notice your life change and you might just fall in love with your Beloved all over again!

How To Turn on Your Lover!!!

When you look your partner straight in the eye and tell them you want them, their heart may melt with agony and desire.

Gently touching their shoulder as you walk by and direct your energy toward them with love and passion.

Whispering in their ear when talking to them, rather than speaking loudly across the room.

Taking their fingers in your own, and kissing them, ever so softly.

Surprisingly holding their hand, while you are walking somewhere together, or in the midst of a deep conversation.

Placing your hands on their belly and pressing your hands firmly tilted upward, while standing in a room, perhaps a meeting, or somewhere where other people are around.

Sneaking out together and jumping in the car to a woods spot, or running to one while at your mother in law’s house with your kids (leaving them there of course and where they are big enough to be left alone for a half an hour).

Spontaneously getting a hotel room with room service of all your delectable treats!

Laying on a blanket outside under the moon.

Abruptly grabbing your lovers head with your fingers brushing through their hair and pulling their face toward you, and then walking away.

Taking two hands each to the side of your lovers face and pulling him or her towards you and kissing them, so so gently.

Telling your lover you love them “no matter what!”

Making eye contact, often!

Moving slowly, often!

Surprise them with something they love; for no reason!

More to come!

May I Love You?

Originally posted on Source of Inspiration:

May I just be near you,
sit at your feet, gaze
into your eyes, breathe
your fragrance? May I
love you without demand,
happy to be made whole by the
merging of our souls?

May I cheer you when you are
sad, rejoice when you are glad;
love you from afar or as close
as you are? For what is this
thing called, “love,” if not
this passion that I feel just
knowing you exist in this world
though we’ve not yet met? It
does not matter for my heart is
yours and always has been.

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When a Partner lives through your Energy

energy-bodyPeople come together for many reasons, and sometimes we never know what those reasons are. Often times when we first meet someone we are vibrating at a certain frequency that matches with the person we are drawn to and there is an alignment that fills a need, and when we’re lucky feels loving and fulfilling.

When we’ve worked through the patterns in ourself that caused us to be attracted to someone else, we often grow away from the other person. Or we may no longer need them in the way we did before. Sometimes the roles get reversed, and the person you were originally pursuing, then starts pursuing you instead as they feel your need for them is missing. Your need for them is what had originally kept them attached to you. They needed you, in a sense, to need them. However, when you change and stop needing them, the part of them that craved your needing them is no longer filled and becomes empty. When you pull away, instead of pushing toward, they may become angry, or confused, or depressed.

In the past, you may have surrendered to their need, and instead of pulling away further, you may have felt bad and wanted to sooth their pain, so you compromised your own need to detach. However, when you give in to their power, their need to pull you in, you also give up your control, your self worth, your self esteem and your confidence. Immediately when you recognize this pattern and detach from them, you’ll feel better; vibrant, alive, refreshed and energized.

This is related to the third chakra, and when you allow another to pull on your energy, in a sense, and suck you in while they are depleting you, you yourself become depressed, weak, angry, and lack confidence, self worth AND self esteem. The third chakra gets completely out of control. As soon you you cut your connection to them energetically, after recognizing this is happening, you will feel yourself again, and then THEY may become the person who in truth has low self esteem, low self worth, lack of confidence, and a lot of anger. However, all you did was detach from them. It is not you who truly had these issues. It was truly them, and your allowing them to pull on you and overpower your energy will keep you in the cycle of feeling these things in yourself instead. However, if the other person, or your ex-partner is not doing their inner work and continues to try to live through your chakras, you will continue to feel energetically repressed and overpowered again and again. One MUST protect themselves in order for this dynamic to stop happening, AND be aware when it is happening.

This may also be in the same bracket as Abusive Relationships, Narcissism, and Self Sabotage. Are you used to being abused? Are you used to allowing others to control you? Have you been abused as a child and are still living out this pattern as an adult with the partners you choose?  I myself, am also an Adult Survivor of Child Abuse, and I recognize this pattern recycling into my adulthood with my child’s father. The only way to clear myself of this, is to recognize it is happening, and to constantly cleanse myself, to stand my ground, protect myself, and OFTEN, walk away.

Sometimes the only people who can recognize that this pattern is happening, are psychics, intuitive’s and healers, but when you yourself are also a Healer, you may forget that you too are living in this same dynamic. I have a love for all people, and only wish to see my son’s father loved, healed and whole, but when it jeopardizes my own power, and my own passion for living, what must be done is to cleanse and cut the cords, immediately upon recognition. Wearing protective stones, taking protection essences, protective bracelets, amulets for protection, doing cleansing rituals and baths, meditating, working with another healer, constantly cutting the cords in the chakras that are attached and other practices that are helpful is a daily, if not weekly spiritual practice. Prayer is the best medicine, and with a little help, and persistence, the patterns can end, and the other person will stop trying to feed through your energy. We only wish that these people heal their inner selves and discover for themselves what is missing in them that they must feed off of your own energy, however, when they don’t listen, and refuse to do their work, the only solution, is to detach. And when necessary to see them, detaching, again, and again, and again. And truly truly live!

Presently I’m writing a book about energy.  This is a small piece of relationships I am writing on. More writing on energy are at my blog: AwakenToLiving.com

Blessings All! ~~~

Asttarte's Relationship & Tantra Blog: Psychic Intuitive Energy Healer, Sex, Relationship & Empowerment Life Coaching & Tantra Psychotherapy with Asttarte Deva ~ Author ~ Reiki Master Healer ~ Coach, Goddess, Contact Asttarte 631-913-8572, 347-618-1276


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