People come together for many reasons, and sometimes we never know what those reasons are. Often times when we first meet someone we are vibrating at a certain frequency that matches with the person we are drawn to and there is an alignment that fills a need, and when we’re lucky feels loving and fulfilling.
When we’ve worked through the patterns in ourself that caused us to be attracted to someone else, we often grow away from the other person. Or we may no longer need them in the way we did before. Sometimes the roles get reversed, and the person you were originally pursuing, then starts pursuing you instead as they feel your need for them is missing. Your need for them is what had originally kept them attached to you. They needed you, in a sense, to need them. However, when you change and stop needing them, the part of them that craved your needing them is no longer filled and becomes empty. When you pull away, instead of pushing toward, they may become angry, or confused, or depressed.
In the past, you may have surrendered to their need, and instead of pulling away further, you may have felt bad and wanted to sooth their pain, so you compromised your own need to detach. However, when you give in to their power, their need to pull you in, you also give up your control, your self worth, your self esteem and your confidence. Immediately when you recognize this pattern and detach from them, you’ll feel better; vibrant, alive, refreshed and energized.
This is related to the third chakra, and when you allow another to pull on your energy, in a sense, and suck you in while they are depleting you, you yourself become depressed, weak, angry, and lack confidence, self worth AND self esteem. The third chakra gets completely out of control. As soon you you cut your connection to them energetically, after recognizing this is happening, you will feel yourself again, and then THEY may become the person who in truth has low self esteem, low self worth, lack of confidence, and a lot of anger. However, all you did was detach from them. It is not you who truly had these issues. It was truly them, and your allowing them to pull on you and overpower your energy will keep you in the cycle of feeling these things in yourself instead. However, if the other person, or your ex-partner is not doing their inner work and continues to try to live through your chakras, you will continue to feel energetically repressed and overpowered again and again. One MUST protect themselves in order for this dynamic to stop happening, AND be aware when it is happening.
This may also be in the same bracket as Abusive Relationships, Narcissism, and Self Sabotage. Are you used to being abused? Are you used to allowing others to control you? Have you been abused as a child and are still living out this pattern as an adult with the partners you choose? I myself, am also an Adult Survivor of Child Abuse, and I recognize this pattern recycling into my adulthood with my child’s father. The only way to clear myself of this, is to recognize it is happening, and to constantly cleanse myself, to stand my ground, protect myself, and OFTEN, walk away.
Sometimes the only people who can recognize that this pattern is happening, are psychics, intuitive’s and healers, but when you yourself are also a Healer, you may forget that you too are living in this same dynamic. I have a love for all people, and only wish to see my son’s father loved, healed and whole, but when it jeopardizes my own power, and my own passion for living, what must be done is to cleanse and cut the cords, immediately upon recognition. Wearing protective stones, taking protection essences, protective bracelets, amulets for protection, doing cleansing rituals and baths, meditating, working with another healer, constantly cutting the cords in the chakras that are attached and other practices that are helpful is a daily, if not weekly spiritual practice. Prayer is the best medicine, and with a little help, and persistence, the patterns can end, and the other person will stop trying to feed through your energy. We only wish that these people heal their inner selves and discover for themselves what is missing in them that they must feed off of your own energy, however, when they don’t listen, and refuse to do their work, the only solution, is to detach. And when necessary to see them, detaching, again, and again, and again. And truly truly live!
Presently I’m writing a book about energy. This is a small piece of relationships I am writing on. More writing on energy are at my blog: AwakenToLiving.com
Blessings All! ~~~