When your man acts more like a woman; hyper sensitive (even more than you), and squirms at the tiniest little changes, or communication that might stir up his emotions, what do you do? Do you wonder, does he have a mental illness? Is he on hyper alert? Was he abused as a child, neglected, or is something else going on?

And, when you love him, how do you keep your center and your ground to support him through his hyper emotions?

One thing I would start with is to give him time. Give him space. Let him have his tantrum. Know it is not you. He is a very emotional guy and he needs a lot of time alone. He will work through this pout in his own time, and when he is ready he will show up again.

Are you willing to put up with his emotional tantrums, or would you rather walk away?

Sometimes you can get SO irritated from your man’s running away, or hyper alter sensitivity that you would MUCH rather have a guy who can hold you in your power; hold you in your love. And, perhaps you DO deserve that, but you can still choose to love those who also might not be as strong as you would prefer.

The benefits to a man being so sensitive:

He may actually understand when you are going through something that is NOT directed at him. He may be able to talk to you deeply about your process. He may be willing to be there for you to comfort you in times of your own sadness, or premenstrual process. He may truly get it when YOU yourself need space and be able to give that to you without taking it personally.

If you have to do all the work; all the compromising, all the accepting, forgiving, letting go, you may very well have good reason to walk away. And, what would be SO powerful and supportive for you is to have a group of friends to talk to, a support group, a Meetup Group to go to, a 12 Step Program perhaps (Al-Anon), a church Group, your family if you’re close to them, or a Counselor or Therapist to talk to. You want to talk to people who are going to be supportive to your goal, and not try to pull you away from what you want, but also people who are going to help you gain your power, hold you in your strength, offer a listening ear, and a compassionate voice.

I am offering sessions to help you recover from a break up, separation from a loved one, the death of someone you loved, or a friend or loved one who has moved far away. I offer you my kindness and compassion foremost, and as it can sometimes take time to trust someone to help you, I will be patient and listen to your needs. And when you are ready, I will offer you different forms of healing to allow your feelings to release and let go of any pain, or grief. I may also suggest that we do a letting go ceremony to help you in the process.

This is one example of the many tools I work with, and I am glad to be of service to help those in need. Right now is the time to help each other!

Bless You!

To all those women who are addicted to love, to loving or can’t quite seem to break free of someone who won’t really love them back.

Like in the movie/book: He’s Just Not That Into You:

• If he’s not calling you
• If he’s not taking you to meet his parents
• If he’s not buying you flowers
• If he’s not having sex with you
• If he’s not taking your calls
• If he’s consistently more interested in work, other friends, anything but you…
• If he always has an excuse…
• If he’s not buying you presents…
• If he’s not taking you out to (dinner, movies, etc).
• Etcetera, Etcetera, Etcetera…

Check out the contents of this girls (and guys who care or fit perfectly in this role):
1. Loving the Man Who Doesn’t Love Back
2. Good Sex in Bad Relationships (Bad Sex in Good Relationships fits here too!)
3. If I suffer for You, Will You Love Me?
4. The Need to Be Needed
5. Shall We Dance?
6. Men Who Choose Women Who Love Too Much
7. Beauty and the Beast
8. When One Addiction Feeds Another
9. Dying for Love
10. The Road to Recovery
11. Recovery and Intimacy: Closing the Gap

It’s not easy leaving a pattern like this, especially for those of us who have children. However, when you’re doing all the work, all the leading, all the initiating and making things work, it may be up to you to also be the one to walk away. You can spend your entire life forgiving and accepting and compromising to make things work, but when you have to compromise your self and what matters to you, you may be in for a sentence that will never change. It’s much easier to be polyamorous (to have other affairs) than to walk away cold turkey, especially when the heart is involved!

I think it’s time I start my own support group, as the leader who needs it too!

Are you calling your friends asking for advice?

Have you seduced him or her on multiple occasions with little response or wake up from them?

Are you tired of rejection?

Do they always have excuses and are NEVER in the mood?

Perhaps there’s another reason they are shut down. Perhaps there are deeper core issues that need to be dealt with. You love them, he/she loves you, but the little amount of fondling, caressing or stroking of your hair is getting old. You want some connection. You want someone to love you deeply. You want a tantric partner; not just some 10 or 15 minute quickie. Where is he (she)?

You try playing with your toys, you go out with the girls (or the guys), you are ALWAYS in the mood and he just drops dead when he comes home.

The holidays are coming and she had said, “I don’t have a good experience with the holidays and I always look forward to when they are over.” Her ex-husband knew she was to spend Thursday with her children, but he then asserted that he was going to take the children that day. Then he casually mentioned that he was also going to be taking the children to someone in his family on Saturday, when Saturday was also a day scheduled for her to be with her children.

It was a situation I could not do anything about, other than listen. And, as I heard her speak, I heard more and more of my own situation that I USED TO have, that I now NO LONGER have. I wanted to offer her my suggestions and perhaps a new viewpoint that might help her. She sort of was playing the victim role and didn’t seem to realize how she was being responsible in the situation. She was blaming, acting entitled, was judging and holding onto the pattern of this relationship and how it had been going on for years.

If I could put my two sense into this situation for this woman, I would ask her to consider how she is being is responsible; if she can see how he feels, what she is still holding onto from the past, how she is blaming, judging, nitpicking and playing the role of the victim. She is playing the advocate for helping women who have gone through divorce, but it seems her heart is very much still hurting and she covers it up with a powerful confidence. My hope for her, is that she learns to forgive him, accepts the situation, learns to listen, and can one day surrender to this mans feelings. This may be the one thing that could bring peace to her family, and perhaps friendship between the two of them, instead of animosity!

This includes all areas that would impact ones relationship ~ family, parenting, business, career, life, leadership, spirituality, health and wellness, intimacy and the conclusion is whole life and mentoring. I will be starting my path as an author through this process, not ending with one book, but the doorway to many!

I am looking for practice Sessions during this process. I am offering Free Sessions all done over the phone while I’m in training! Don’t miss out  during this special time.

Pages that are complete (or mostly):

A Thriving Relationship
About
Books for Relationships
Contact Me
Feedback
My Other Places
Professional Relationship Coaching with Asttarte
Relationships on The Rocks
Tantra & Intimacy
Tantra Therapy Sessions
Whole Life Coaching

The other pages still need to be written, but keep on the lookout as things are evolving day by day!

Namaste!

I’m still integrating how this will all go about, how to organize this, structure it, manage it, put it all together and the like.

My main focus is on Relationships and Intimacy, as this has been my area of expertise for 6 years now. And, prior to this I studied and practiced many healing modalities that dealt with the whole self, so I don’t want you to think that I stop with relationships. In fact, sometimes you have to deal with all the other areas of your life BEFORE the relationship you desire or are in actually works. As well as, when you deal with the people in your life that you are the closest to, your loved ones (family/friends and especially your most significant relationship), all the other areas of your life improve right along with it!

As you know, I LOVE writing, and I LOVE creating sites, blogs, etc; not that I want to do this for a career or anything, but it does come very easy to me. It could be from all those years working in the corporate world, as a Receptionist, Office Manager or Administrative Assistant. It was not my passion, but I was good at many elements of it and it certainly has helped me with my own business! Or, it could have been from those early years back in the late 80s when I taught myself how to type on an old fashioned type-writer or the early 90s with that wonderful gift from my uncle who gave me an electric typewriter (that was the in thing before computers).

My point is, I love helping people, and I want you to know that whatever you are dealing with, I would love to help you, talk to you, or support you!

You are a very important human being, and just because you might be dealing with something other than a relationship, it doesn’t mean that coaching can’t help you. In fact, most Relationship Coaches have to have the foundation of professional coaching and life coaching under their belt before they can take the training of Relationship Coaching, so they all are relevant! And, I will be taking a Mentor Training at the end of January which will in fact be the catalyst for covering all aspects of Coaching ~ your whole life matters, and so do your relationships with the people you care about the most; especially the relationship with yourself!

However, if you do take a peek at this, just be forewarned, this is only the beginnings of something, and may be deleted if I find I can put those elements on here!

Blessed Be!

I am here as a Healer, a Therapist and as a Coach, and when you choose to seek Coaching and have had plenty of therapy to help you, Coaching is the next best direction to take. If you decide you also want to do Healing Sessions with me, we can certainly incorporate this into our work together, however, in separate sessions at separate times!

I am here to be your catalyst to the juicy love affair you always wanted to have, you used to have in the past, and the life you deserve to live now!

Blessings and Namaste,

Asttarte